Taking Time To Put YOu First
With Janae Fletcher
Sure, cleaning up your home is a good way to get organized, but it isn’t the only one. Your habits, heck your life, could use a bit of it as well, and Janae Fletcher is just the gal to help you get it done. She is all about self care, making time for you, and making time for the things in your life that are most important to you.
Since attending an event she hosted back in December and checking out her website, I’ve taken even more baby steps towards getting myself together this year. Her take ten and self care suggestions have got me thinking hard about how I use my time. They have also gotten me into dot journal planning, forcing me to slow down and clear my head before breaking down what I need, and more importantly want, to spend my time on every day (check out how that is going on Pg 42).
Here are some words of wisdom from Janae that I hope will bring you new understanding and help you take some baby steps on your when it comes to self care.
What is self care?
Self Care is an all encompassing word that can sometimes seem confusing, misunderstood and down right unattainable. To me Self Care is about providing ease [in your life] and making choices to help that process happen. [It] is a lifestyle choice that engages the power of positive selfishness.
On your website you list six self care steps, what are they and how can they help you?
Love: [Choose] love over fear, every time, even if it is scary and out of your comfort zone. You are coming from a good place and it will pay you back in return.
Awareness: Being aware of yourself and your needs is key. This also involves taking an honest look at our strengths and weaknesses. Have it be Self Honesty, not marred by comparison or negative self talk.
Acceptance: There are certain things we have to accept about ourselves, others, and our circumstances; fighting it is a waste of your energy. You may have to let something, someone, or part of yourself go to move on. Your “weakness” could lead you to your greatest strength.
Compassion: In simple terms, compassion and love can be defined as positive thoughts and feelings that give rise to such essential things in life as hope, courage, determination, and inner strength. ~Dalai Lama
Commitment: The longest commitment you have in life is the one [you have] with yourself. Who else has been there every step of the way? Our commitments say so much about us. What rituals and routines, mind-set and physical actions, are you willing to commit to? Baby steps and giant leaps matter. They are all part of the process.
Forgiveness: Ah, so much easier said than done at times. We have all been burned or in unfortunate situations at times. Dig deep. What is the gift you can find within? Has it taught you how not to be, brought you to an unexpected path, or given you reason to life a better life?
Carrying around burdens, regret, and pain is hard and heavy. You may not forget, but you can forgive and let go. Give yourself that gift.
Do the steps need to be completed in any particular order?
Self Care decisions and choices really don’t need to be in any particular order, but the initial decision to live a life you love has to be at the foundation.
I take the [steps] into consideration when making decisions and lifestyle changes. How I feel and how a particular circumstance is affecting my life is always top of mind.
Your Self Care Passport seems to involve similar decisions, can you tell me more about it and how it works?
I know from real life experience that developing and living a life full of Self Care is not always easy to achieve.
I developed the Self Care Passport Process to help me with the [steps]. It’s a simple and adaptable system that helps you track what you are doing, who you are hanging out with, choices and decisions of all kinds, [and] how you are feeling [about them].
[Over time] it will reveal patterns that will help you decide which choices are serving you and which are not.
Why is being aware of your feelings throughout the day/week important? How can it help you?
Being aware of [the] feelings around your activities, responsibilities, [and] who you are spending time with is a great indicator [of whether] you are aligned with who you truly are and how you want to lead your life.
This is an important part of Self Care, helping you make decisions that are best for your greater good. [That doesn’t mean you won’t still] have responsibilities that we need to hold true to. In some cases it is an attitude adjustment that is needed rather than a physical adjustment.
Boundary setting [should be] at the foundation,always. What do you want to be involved in? Is the time and effort you are exchanging resulting in a meaningful and fulfilling experience or are you just spinning your wheels avoiding yourself and others? Are the people you spend time with lifting you up or bringing you down? Are you too busy? Do you have enough time to just be?
What services and resources do you offer beyond your blog to help people on their journey to self care?
I offer individual support in a private and comforting way for both personal and professional life. I also have self driven online courses, Destination: You, Journey to Self, a 5 module course to explore your inner world. You can choose to go at your own pace or have me as your tour guide on [the] journey.
During the summer, July 1 through August 31, I [offer] the Self Care Passport Adventure Club, [In the Club] you receive, ideas, inspiration & motivation to be the best version of yourself.
[It allows you to] explore your inner and outer worlds, putting an adventurous twinkle in your eye, and a stamp in your Self Care Passport [by] bringing more FUN and balance into your life, reducing fatigue and burnout, [and] expanding time to meet your needs.
Imagine Your Life With, More Joy, Happiness, and FUN; a broadened sense of purpose, fueled by your inner fire; a Sisterhood that supports you fully, locally and online. That is what the Self Care Passport Adventure Club is.
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